I say No to the Montessori shelfie
Oct 27, 2020 - Furniture , Parenting - By Carine Robin
Why I say No to the Montessori shelfie, aka taking a picture for your Social Media of what is your Montessori shelf.
Montessori shelfie, aka taking a picture of what is your Montessori shelf is all the rage on Social Media.
It can be inspiring, but it seems that it has become the center of attention for many well-meaning Montessori parents.
I agree that it’s best to have your children’s toys and activities on view.
So, for many, a dedicated shelving unit will be the perfect place to display your child’s toys and specific Montessori materials and activities he might "work” on.
What I disagree with is the pressure to produce an Instagram Worthy shelf.
Often, I see parents rotating for the sake of it.
Parents ask me "when to rotate toys” "How often should we rotate?” and "what do I do if my child is not interested in the activities I have chosen to display on his shelf?”.
Without checking a single shelfie, what do you think your child needs?
One of the principles of Montessori education is that you observe your child .
So, it might happen that you will need to remove some activities or to add a specific one based on your child’s interests or some skills that she is working on. But it might happen that you will not swap or rotate any activities for months!
In the classroom, we rotate only a few activities, such as seasonal work and crafts-based activities. Most of the materials are available all the time because children of different ages and development will use them at different times during the school year.
At home, it makes sense to remove the materials when you see that your child has mastered the skill. If you see that the toys are gathering dust, it might be time to remove them.
Dedicated shelves can be the best way to display toys. It’s clearly an imitation of what you see in the classroom.
In fact, parents of young children are often disappointed and tell me, "my toddler trashes the content of his shelf” or "my two years old ignores the shelf and prefers to climb all day." And I had received that comment from a client "my child wants to pour his drink, but he ignores the tray with the two jugs of pasta I set up for him".
This is very "normal" because most children under the age of 3 are not interested in "shelf work," aka specific toys or activities that have a specific end.
Yes, they will complete one puzzle or push the ball through an object permanence box.
But at the same time, they are on the move, and they want to communicate with you all the time.
So, they will take their activity where you are and will not put it back on the shelf. They will prefer to cook than to transfer rice between two cute containers.
They will experiment with the content of the shelf and make it all messy in 5 minutes.
Remember that Maria Montessori designed her classroom to look like a home, not the other way around!
A Montessori shelfie can inspire you, but above all, your child should be the one inspiring you!
Also, I have parents complaining that they don’t have space for a dedicated Montessori shelf in their house, and some told me, "we are not fully Montessori because we don’t have a shelf".
I have lived in rental houses for many years. We moved 4 times with my daughter and twice with my son. I can tell you that we started with displaying the toys on the bottom of our bookshelves. We also displayed some activities on our coffee table.
In my playgroup, I use table mats to display the toys.
You don’t need a specific shelf, and you don’t need to worry about which one to choose.
And you don't have to be worried because your shelfie picture is not as beautiful as some Instagram accounts you follow. (and I love so many Instagram accounts that have beautiful shelfies! But look beyond the shelfie post! Do they observe their own children? Do they share their process? Do they explain why they have chosen each material?)
To conclude, go back to basics. Observe your child, do with what you have, and be inspired and never pressured because Montessori has to work for your child and your family
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3 Montessori inspired accounts that show shelfie that can inspire you. I love those 3 accounts because they explain why they have done that topic and how they rotate based on the observation of their own children:
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About the Author: Carine Robin is a qualified and experienced Montessori teacher and founder of The Montessori Family. With over 15 years of experience, Carine offers a blend of professional insight and personal understanding as a mother of two and qualified child psychologist. Inspired by the success of her Montessori subscription box, she created The Montessori Family to provide a comprehensive resource for parents and teachers globally. This platform aims to support child growth and well-being through curated educational activities. Additionally, Carine maintains the UK's most popular Montessori blog and administers the largest Montessori UK Facebook group, making her a central figure in the Montessori community.
