Montessori Parenting: What to say instead of “Say sorry”

Do you find yourself asking your child to say "Sorry" if they have done something wrong, such as hurting another child or break something?

It's easy for a child to parrot "sorry" when you ask them. They learn that if they say it, they are out of trouble. They can go back to playing happily. 

But is it meaningful? 

Very young children have a limited understand of other people emotions. They don't express empathy in the same as we do. They live in an egocentric way, focusing on their own needs. 

They say "sorry" because they are asked to. But this doesn't help the injured child or fix the broken toy. That doesn't help your child to understand what they did wrong.

So what else can you do?

Try the following step by step approach.

I hope this approach will be useful for your family. 

Discover 10 Montessori Principles for parents -

FREE video

Subscribe to my newsletter and receive information about my courses, this blog and freebies including the First Lesson of the Montessori Parenting course! 


About the Author Carine Robin

Carine Robin has a Master’s Degree in Psychology, specialising in child psychology. She worked for various social services in her home country of Belgium, before moving to Ireland in 2006. It was there that she started working in a nursery and discovered Montessori education. After having her first child, her passion for the philosophy grew and she qualified as a Montessori teacher and managed a preschool. Carine has been running a Montessori based parents and toddler group and coaching families for 9 years. She now also runs an online group for over 14000 parents, sharing her knowledge and passion with people from around the world. In 2018, Carine realised families needed more support and launched her popular online parenting courses and monthly subscription boxes, full of personally designed Montessori materials.